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Tuesday, November 28, 2017

No More Broken Wrists

It has been 4.5 weeks.  It has a been a combined 17 games and practices between two teams.  Though, in the grand scheme of things, that is not that long, it sure felt like forever as he counted down each practice until he can hit the ice again.  The casts are off, the mobility in the wrists are there, the doctor says he is a go to play, and he is (hopefully) ready to get back on the ice.  At least to practice.  I am pretty sure someone will be a bit more careful, during season, with what it is he is capable of doing.

Look how happy this boy is!

Sunday, October 29, 2017

A Load of Pumpkins and 2 Broken Wrists




It was a typical fall Saturday.  The weather was nice.  Turner had a morning soccer game and Chase had an early evening game.  In between the two we thought we would run to the pumpkin patch.  Get the pumpkins we would carve, take the obligatory pictures, and allow Decker to enjoy in the fall tradition.  We walked around, we chose our gords, and we even did get some photos. But, while Decker and I were enjoying the chickens running around the coop, you and Ryder and Turner and Quinn were having your own fun.  Accidents happen, we all know this is true.  And, so one did.  From atop of the hay bale flat bed you fell.  You broke your fall with your wrists and broke both wrists as a result.  I did not see you fall.  You did run over and tell me but did not seem to be in much pain.  But, then you were gone.  We couldn't find you for a final group picture and we learned you had left for the car because the pain was intense.  When we met you at the car, we could see the pain all over your face and off to urgent care we went.  The diagnosis was not surprising, but it was a disappointment.  One wrist casted, one in a removable brace so that you could shower, with a timeline of 6-8 weeks.  You always strive to be the best, so if you're going to break a wrist and miss part of hockey season it seems very Chase like to just break both!

The countdown begins.  Though it is estimated to be 7-8 weeks, it is not days in the cast being counted, but the number of practices and games being missed.  You are a trooper and a sport.  Although this is crushing to your spirit, adversity builds character and there is no doubt, like most things, you will rise far above this in no time.  Feel better quickly, Chase.  We love you.



Friday, July 7, 2017

A Letter to my Son on his 11th Birthday! (Chase)

Dear Chase,

Happy 11th!

11. I don't know. It doesn't seem possible, yet it is.  You've always carried yourself with a certain maturity- an old soul you've been called time and again- and, recently the extra inch of growth and meat on your bones :) (55 inches and 73.6 pounds,) means you now look and act very much like tween that you are.  Whether I want to believe it or not.

We celebrated your birthday in many fun ways.  You went to camp and then after we went to see the opening day premiere of Spiderman Homecoming in the highest audio and video quality possible, thanks to Uncle Rob.  (Sidenote: Uncle Rob has a similar passion for both superheroes and technology as Ryder does.)  Quinn joined us for this movie as well as dinner.  We all loved it. The next day, after sleeping in (it's hard to be 11) and some swimming, we took a small handful of yours and Ryder's friends to Treehouse World, where you played Archery Tag (awesome!); Rock Climbed up very tall trees, and ran through a park filled with tree houses, swinging bridges, and rope swings.  It was a fun day.  Then, we had the usual suspects spend the night.  On Sunday, we celebrated your birthday and Pop-Pop's with the whole family.  It was wonderful.

Spiderman: Homecoming

Archery Tag





Since you were an infant, back when your large dimples were bigger than your preemie face, you've had a way of demanding our attention- without ever demanding. An infectious smile, a contagious laugh, and a magnetic charm have always drawn people to you, and still do. You are funny and clever and can be silly when you want to be but you also have a natural ability to carry on intelligent and meaningful conversations with anyone.  You can teach and explain to those you know more than and can contribute while learning when talking to adults.You present yourself as well-mannered, beguiling, and sagacious.  And, yes it is true, you are all of these things, so it makes us laugh (and sometimes pull our hair out) that you can be rather dense at times.  Completely unaware of what is going on around you, or not completely sure where you put your jacket or your shoes.  We joke you live in a Chase bubble, and in many ways it is true.  But it is not a selfishness that keeps you there, rather it is a sincere hyper-focus on the things that are important to you.  Whether it is your school work, your sports, your magic tricks, whatever it is, you want to be the very best at it and will work hard until you find a success with which you are satisfied.

At the very top of this list is hockey.  Your love for the sport goes beyond the game itself.  You want to play all of the time.  If you're not playing on the ice then it is on the street.  Or on the X-Box.  Or, watching others play it.  You want to get better.  You want to do great.  You want to win.  And, though you don't always get the W, you have been doing well and getting better each year with the sport.  This year, your second year playing on a club team, you were awarded with MVP of the team.  This made you so proud, as it did us.  But, even more than earning the MVP, your season was a highlight of the year, if not your hockey life, because you had great coaches who taught you the game, and a great team, where you made real friends and formed friendships that will last a lifetime, even if you are not teammates.  In addition to hockey, you still play baseball and guest play for your old soccer team any opportunity you have.  You love to compete and we love to watch you play.






You have a dynamic personality and are well-liked by your peers.  You tend to hold tight to your best friends and keep them close.  Ethan tops the list and falls in to the brother category.  Connor remains as your best friend since 2nd grade and the friendship you two have fostered is really wonderful.  Quinn may have started as a hockey friend but he has also become one of your very best friends and you work to maintain your friendship in spite of not going to school together.  As well as Luke, who your bond with hasn't dulled even though you are no longer teammates and go to different schools.  I am very proud of the friend that you are.  You are smart, and you are funny.  You can be silly or clever or witty and are always up for telling or hearing a good joke.  You are a good kid who likes to follow the rules (though not always at home) and though you're still learning the ropes of the world it is evident you want to be the best you can be while remaining humble and respectful to all.



Ethan
Connor

Connor and Ethan

Quinn and Luke


In school, as in most places, you have found so much success. Your 5th grade year with Mr. Benson was one of your favorites and Mr. Benson ranks as your favorite teacher.  You maintain very good grades and want to do well and most of it seems to come easy for you.  I hope you continue to thrive, continue to learn, and continue to succeed. At school, you were chosen by the teachers as part of the Conflict Mediator group (though I have yet to learn what you really do for this) and you were a part of Student Council on the Service team. You were in the 5th grade chorus and in the school play and stay involved with Richboro Elementary. You find many ways to succeed within the school walls.



Beyond sports your interests vary.  You like magic, and biking, and fishing.  You like to climb trees and play tag and shoot hoops.  You like to learn about crimes and solving them and you have a fascination for storms.  You scour YouTube for pranks, and for jokes, and for puzzles and riddles and enjoy trying to solve them.  Your favorite TV shows are Survivor and America's Got Talent and you are always up for a good comedy like the Goldbergs.  You like 21 Pilots and a lot of the pop songs on the radio but music is not your real passion.  Instead, you focus on the Flyers!  The Eagles, Phillies, and Sixers can hold your interest as well.  You like to be connected to things that are going on amongst your peers and you always seem to have one ear listening to the adult conversations around you.


This year we celebrated Delaney's bat mitzvah.  This year you had your first camping trips, the first being with Ethan and Ryder and GP, the second two being with our family and some friends.  You went on journeys on your bike, through Tyler and the neighborhood, and fishing trips that lasted all day long.
Delaney's Bat Mitzvah



In the tent on the first camping trip

Your tenth year was an overall great year, you've grown and matured and are really becoming quite the gentleman. Our life gets a bit hectic, and we are all trying to manage an abundance of different personalities.  Sometimes we disagree and that is ok and,since you are a master negotiator, your point of view often carries a lot of weight.  I know we often expect a lot from you but, Chase, we do not expect more than you can handle.  In fact, we could probably demand more and get it.  Because your capabilities are beyond even what you realize.  Your talents are still being uncovered. Chase, I am your biggest supporter.  If I am pushing you it is because I know you can do it and I believe in everything you can be.  You are kind, you are smart, you are funny, and you're talented.  Use your strengths to do good in the world, lead by example, and set forth towards positive things.  I am always proud of everything that you are and my belief in you is limitless for everything and anything that you want to do or be. I hope you know that in my moments with you, the conversations that we have, the laughs that we share, the games that we play,  along with these same moments with your brothers and daddy, are the most cherished moments in my life.  I am so very proud that you're my son.
Happy 11th birthday, Chase!  I love you so.



10th birthday letter



In the tent on our first camping trip

Wildwood

Beach Blast medal winners

Brothers

Boulder Field

Happy birthday to my favorite twins

Growing in to the birthday shirt
birthday interview



A Letter to my Son on his 11th Birthday! (Ryder)

Dear  Ryder,

Happy 11th Birthday

I admit it.  I was not still not used to the idea of you being double digits and, yet, you are now 11. Full-fledged in the middle of the tweendom, actually closer to heading on out of that phase.

We celebrated your birthday in many fun ways.  It began with a pancake breakfast before camp and then going to see the opening day premiere of Spiderman Homecoming in the highest audio and video quality possible, thanks to Uncle Rob.  (Sidenote: Uncle Rob has a similar passion for both superheroes and technology as you do.)  Quinn joined us for this movie as well as dinner.  The next day, after sleeping in (it's hard to be 11) and some swimming, we took a small handful of yours and Chase's friends to Treehouse World, where you played Archery Tag (awesome!); Rock Climbed up very tall trees, and ran through a park filled with tree houses, swinging bridges, and rope swings.  It was a fun day.  Then, we had the usual suspects spend the night.  On Sunday, we celebrated your birthday and Pop-Pop's with the whole family.  It was wonderful.

Happy 11th to my favorite twins

Pancake breakfast

Spiderman: Homecoming

Cargo climb at Treehouse World

Archery Tag

Tree "rock" climbing


The boys

I am not sure that on the day you were born I could have imagined what 11 would actually be. There's no way that I would have guessed that one year into your second decade you would be almost as tall as me (59.5 inches), weigh nearly as much me, and have a foot that is larger than mine (size 7.5).  I did not imagine that we would be sharing hoodies, flip-flops, and iPhones (this is a point of contention and a big part of your negotiation as to why you should have your own.) It's true that by the time you were a toddler it was obvious you were full of imagination, abound with creativity, intensely passionate, and loaded with an energy that was hard to keep up with.  We learned then that if we allowed you space to run you would never go further than the eye could see, but if we tried to hold you close you would fight us until you could run off.  But, we could not have guessed how all of that would translate into an 11-year-old version of yourself.  Because, even though you're still very much the same kid you always were- creative, smart, sensitive, kind, energetic, stubborn, and still in need of a reasonable amount of freedom- you are not a simple description.  You were never typically molded and are not easily classified.  You are not black and white, but instead, a million different shades of every color. You've always been and continue to be interesting and dynamic and varied, layered with many different interests and passions, and you often leave all of us who adore you having to guess what's next.

Ryder, my superhero, you are the kid who sits in his room (which has walls painted in a true red), on the bed that is surrounded by skateboard images and a display of your own artwork, wearing your lacrosse jersey while comfortable beneath a Phillies blanket, playing your electric bass. You don't fall into one category like most kids your age; not a jock, nor a skater, nor an artist, nor a musician, nor a rebel- yet, almost like patchwork, you are all of these things; a composition of so many unique and interesting talents.  You are a sensitive poet and a physically strong athlete.  You are wired with kinetic energy yet love to sit and read.  You are a deep thinker, an out of the box thinker, and have a great sense of  humor.  You can be quietly drawing or challenging gravity at a skate park, both with equal determination. You are tough, and brave, yet endearing and sensitive.  You are, literally, a kid who can find love anywhere, spotting heart shaped rocks, leaves, and erosion carvings everywhere we go.  I call you my Superhero because you truly are. You have been a hero more than once, running to the rescue of Decker, or a friend, or an animal on any occasion that presents itself. And, like many of your favorite heroes, what you present on the surface is just the very beginning of who you are. To know you is to explore the depths of you, and Ryder, you are fascinating.

Just finding a little love in the grass




You are a loyal friend, a trait that does not go unnoticed by those that are lucky enough to have you as one.  And, there are many.  Your friends are widespread and of all different types.  Your fun and energetic ways make you a friend amongst friends, just as your caring and sensitive ways make you a friend to those who could use an extra one.

This past year we celebrated Delaney's bat mitzvah which was a wonderful time for us all.  Also, you played basketball, began bass guitar lessons, learned to Olly on your skateboard, and started playing lacrosse.  Lacrosse is a different and fun sport and you enjoyed playing it.  You read many books, drew many pictures, and have started writing songs.  5th grade was a successful year.  Mrs. Cicchiello was an awesome teacher for you and, as many before her have, embraced your talents and explored your depth.  As with most things, you didn't always make it easy to understand your academic ways.  You are not a typical student (of course) and find standard learning from worksheets boring. You will master a topic but not show it in your test scores.  You claim to hate math, yet ended the school year with an E in said topic.  Or, you will skip answers on a test but can explain the material to your classmate with perfection (as told to me by Mr. Benson.)   You love to keep us all guessing, and it takes a team of us (teachers, support teachers, dad and I) to develop plans that allow your intelligence and your creativity to flourish and prosper within the standard public classroom. This past year, in an effort to build your own confidence in your academic competency, and because of your ability to help a person in need, especially younger children, the idea to assist a first grader with math became a part of your customized academic program.  This was something that you absolutely loved. Helping Jackson every Friday was a highlight of your school week.  All of your teachers have said how you would make an amazing teacher one day.  You were chosen by the teachers as part of the Conflict Mediator group (though I have yet to learn what you really do for this) and you are a part of Student Council on the Art team, you were in the chorus and in the school play.  You also did the Science Fair with Jake and were in the district Art Show. You always stay involved with Richboro Elementary.  You find many ways to succeed within the school walls.


science fair
art show

Delaney's Bat Mitzvah



Although you haven't worn a Superhero costume in many years, nor have you played with an action figure pretending to save the world from villains, you remain to be a self-proclaimed "superhero geek" and are extremely knowledgeable on all the facets of the heroes, their worlds, their powers, their villains, and their back stories.  You'll even chuckle at me when, thinking I have learned something new, I inquire "Ry, did you know...." and then you'll remind that you read up on everything there is to know.  Because of this diligent research, when we went to see the very gory, very violent, yet emotionally touching R-Rated Logan, and I asked you if you were scared at all when Logan was decapitating the bad guys with his Wolverine claws you said, "Mom, I know everything about this story and what is happening, it isn't real, there is nothing to be scared of."  I mean, I know you're right, mostly, but c'mon, Logan literally took off a head in the very first scene of the movie.  Lol.  However, it was a great movie,(in fact, it is your favorite movie that you have seen yet, with Spiderman: Homecoming in second) that got us both a little teary by the end.


I don't know when and how you do all the "research" that you do (it is clearly internet based) but you have a similar knowledge about Green Day, your all-time favorite band, and each of its bandmates. As well as Skate Boarding, and many other of your interests.  You do not take an interest of yours lightly. No, you fall in love with it completely and put forth a passionate devotion to learning about it. I hope this continues to be the way you do things and that you find a career to be passionate about with similar fiery.  (And, it wouldn't hurt to be this passionate about school work:)

Your favorite TV show is The Flash; (though we love to watch both Survivor and America's Got Talent together as a family.)  And, you laugh almost as hard as I do when we get to watch an episode of The Goldberg's.  Your favorite books series is The Magisterial Trials (though you also really liked the I Funny series by James Patterson; your favorite movie (as previously mentioned) is Logan; your favorite band is Green Day.  Your favorite sport is a toss-up between basketball and lacrosse, both of which you play in an organized league, but it is skateboarding that you like to fill your free time with.You love to take a bike ride, scour You-Tube, climb trees, go fishing, and play tag.  Your best friends are Ethan (who is like a brother) and Aidan and Jake, and your favorite color still remains to be red.  You love to write books and songs and comics.



This year you had your first camping trips, the first being with Ethan and Chase and GP, the second two being with our family and some friends.  You went on journeys on your bike, through Tyler and the neighborhood, and fishing trips that lasted all day long.  You went to Cape May for a week with a friend.  You have certainly had a year full of memorable moments.

Your tenth year was an overall great year, you've grown and matured and are really finding yourself. I know that things get hectic, and I know that we don't always agree.  I know that, sometimes, we will yell, and other times you will think that we are really tough on you.  But, agree or not, yelling or not talking, I am always beyond proud of everything that you are. I hope you know that it is the moments that we share, the conversations that we have, the laughs that are echoed, the games that we play that are the most cherished moments in my life.  Ryder, I have so much faith in everything you could become and hope you understand that your abilities are limitless, your heart is huge, and in addition to being brave, you are kind and sensitive and real.  These are your super powers, Ryder, use them and use them well.

Happy 11th birthday, Ryder!  I love you so.

Mom

The 10th birthday Letter



In the tent on our first camping trip

Brothers in Wildwood



The birthday shirt is just about the right size

Birthday interview